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Simple Human Kindness by Cylvia Hayes

Simple Human Kindness by Cylvia Hayes

Sometimes it is the absence of a thing that reveals its true value.  Until recently I had not adequately appreciated simple human kindness. In the aftermath of my life taking a drastic, unexpected and very public turn, I was embarrassed and nervous about how people would react to me. My first trip back to the […]

People That Stick by Cylvia Hayes

People That Stick by Cylvia Hayes

When the first few people said, “Well, you’re going to find out who your friends are,” I didn’t really pay it much mind. That changed over the next many months. Going through a prolonged, intense, public ordeal would prove to be like running a marathon.  Some people showed up for me at the starting line.  […]

Control and Surrender by Cylvia Hayes

Control and Surrender by Cylvia Hayes

Feeling out of control of events that are affecting me has always been very, very difficult for me.  This was instilled early on when my family fell apart and my parents lost control of themselves.  I worked hard, young, to control some of this, protect myself, my little brother, my animals from the storm that […]

Who’s Running My Show by Cylvia Hayes

Who’s Running My Show by Cylvia Hayes

My whole life I’ve sought approval from others while believing myself confident and independent.  I can see it so much more clearly now.   Valued for being tough, competitive, for not crying.  Compared and weighed against everyone around. And I was pretty good at delivering the goods, playing the parts that earned approval and recognition.  I […]

Impermanence and My Magical Yard and Beyond

Impermanence and My Magical Yard and Beyond

My magical, lively little backyard is a mirror when I take time to look, reflect. Every year I’ve worked on it, planting many strong plants to return each spring.  And they do. The juniper and pine trees stand firm, deeply rooted.  The honeysuckle vines take ownership of their section of the tall, wood fence.  Hummingbirds […]