This is such a poignant and moving piece. I was reminded that often forgiving another person is not so much about the person. It really is about healing the self.
I have been blogging about me being a transgender woman and mental health issues. I hope you keep writing.
Greetings Kristine. I am so glad you found some value in it. I wish you all the very best in your journey. How would I see your blog posts? Peace, Cylvia
Well, you did. I am truly sorry that you are so unhappy and insecure that you believe it will make you feel better if you try to hurt me. I really am. I hope you find peace.
Calvia
As a recovering alcoholic, I can identify with facing hardships and just isolating with copious amounts of alcohol. Now I still face what at times feel like impossible issues. I rely on friends who support me and realize alcohol will just make things worse. I refuse to read that paper because I just don’t trust their so called jounalism.
This is the real tool to reflect your painful ordeals and afflictions. I wish God would help you generously to surmount all these pains and afflictions.
Cylvia, dear Heart, My OUTRAGE has returned, though it had never left. I just wrapped it in a dirty bathrobe and grabbed the remote. Apathy is easy for me. “What can I do? I’m nobody. I’m a cleaning lady. Who would care what I wrote? What on earth would someone like me have to say that would change anything?”
However, in 2010 I created a job for myself and I’m sticking to it. I became The Governor’s Cleaning Lady and Cook. The campaign headquarters was my training ground. I saw great government in action with the reelection of John. Then I wrote letters; “Letters to John from the Trenches” was a project I began a few months into his term. He set up a way for me to send them to him through the email of one of his staff. I’m sure he did not receive the letters. Someday I’ll tell you about a dream I had about all of this. About that time my personal “trench” became too deep for me to be effective. I could only take care of myself. Lately, I have enjoyed a bit of my role on your and John’s Facebook timeline; stirring the pot and taking out the garbage.
Cylvia, It is very important to my well being and sense of who I am in the world for me to stay in touch with you and The Governor. You were a great First Lady and still are to all those who know and love you. When I align my energy to you two lovely renegades I am happy; life has meaning for me; I feel my passion rising….
Yes, you and John are the “sacrificial lambs” for this evil that has penetrated our political system. It must be brought to light how the mainstream media has become the strongest power on the planet. I feel it controls everything we try to do as a society. I feel the majority of people have become “media heads”, spouting out information and opinions, word for word, from the reporters who spew it all into their little brains each and every day, from their tv’s, daily newspapers and radio.
“Turn it on, it’s there, it must be true.” “Look how many reporters are on this story! It must be true.” “I’m sure they investigated everything.” “Oh, yes. Reporters know how to investigate. They are highly trained people with great ethics. They are professionals! Everything they say must be true.” “Oh, for sure! The editors watch over them.” This is a conversation between some ordinary folks who really don’t have time in their busy lives to do some investigating on their own.
Well, that’s how it goes.
Find your personal guidance, dear Cylvia. Peace will follow.
I’ll continue to write to you. Your blog is quite inspiring. Soon.
This post is the cat’s meow….very few get what real healing is about. I don’t think I have read a more profound piece of how our perceptions of the events in our life shape our life…..changing our perceptions is such a simple thing to do…..but oh, so elusive in the human experience. The amazing truth is….when we heal our piece of the experience the rest seems to heal….all the events and people in these events… also experience a healing….this is the evolution of the spirit…..it seems to all move into a place of “mind over matter”. If you don’t mind, it don’t matter.
Peace be with you, my friend.
Your style is very unique compared too other folks I’ve read stuff from.
Thank youu for podting when you have the opportunity, Guess I will just bookmark this blog.
I think the first step should be admitting your crime/ what you’ve done wrong and forgiving yourself while making a conscious decision to think before making a decision. Is this decision honest and fair? If this decision is to better my position, will it hurt others or be taking advantage of others?
Move on, recreate, but learn a lesson from your failure and do your best to make restitution.
Actually Cylvia, you’re a day early. Autumnal equinox this year is Thursday, September 22 at 2:20 pm, Pacific time.
I do enjoy reading your thoughts. Hope they are helping.
Greetings Pat, thanks for dropping a note. I had to post this to my blog site one day early so I could schedule it to hit FB on the actual Equinox — today! Glad you are enjoying my writings. Peace, Cylvia
It’s because of who you are, Cylvia…..trust that you will always attract the very best into your life as you let go of what and who is not working in yor life…..and working through the emotions in your beautiful writing….carry on….dear heart….sending my love and peace…..Doll
Stop it, NOW. You’re still wallowing in your guilt trying to make us think you are a victim when you are clearly NOT.
And don’t contact me with your stupid New Age garbage. You’re guilty and you have not right to act like you’ve redeemed yourself. You’re a fraud and a fake.
Greetings Theresa, Minnie, whoever you really are.
I find it funny that you are so interested in and intimidated by me that you continue to read my writings and send nasty comments. You clearly have some issues that are chewing at you. I donāt know about you but I have had the courage to enter some very challenging and perilous arenas and I have the courage and toughness to reenter after Iāve been pummeled. I genuinely hope you find some healing, peace and self-love so that you can evolve beyond attacking others in an effort to feel better about yourself.
Heya i’m for the first time here. I found this board and I find It truly useful
& it helped me out much. I hope to give something back and
aid others like you helped me.
This design is wicked! You most certainly know how to
keep a reader amused. Between your wit and your videos, I was almost moved to start my own blog (well, almost…HaHa!) Fantastic job.
I really enjoyed what you had to say, and more than that,
how you presented it. Too cool!
Thanks Lieve. And here’s another amazing development. After I had posted this, at the evening event reception, the two people I mention in the post showed and approached me and I was able to say to them exactly what I’d envisioned, “I hope you’re well and that your wounds have healed.” They left. Extraordinary healing day.
Cylvia,
That was a great article, written well and with gratitude. I must confess that when we first connected on Facebook, I did not initially make the connection that you were the same one who went through that ordeal. While we have very different political positions, I appreciate your openness and willingness to listen to different points of view. The woman I came to know did not resemble the one on the front pages or in the headlines. I am glad I know you Cylvia Hayes and I am glad you have gotten your feet back under you. It is interesting what it takes for God to get our attention at times, isn’t it? Keep moving forward with your life Cylvia, you have a lot more to contribute to this planet of ours. Hugs, Dave
Thank you! I have never been able to resurface from my trauma. It has been years. So unimaginable what people can do when they think they can get away with it.
Greetings Allyson, I truly hope you are healing and taking back your identity and life. I know how hard it can be. But it IS possible. Possible even to come out the other side happier, more effective and powerful than before.
It takes open-hearted vulnerability and self acceptance to know and share this way, Cylvia. The ability to do this is one of the most empowering spaces to be in this life. Clearly you are doing some awesome inner work!
Ah yes, I take my dogs out for their jaunt everyday. We go to the edge of a huge alfalfa field where a canal runs by us. The dogs are off leash and wander where they will, following where ever their noses take them. I throw the ball for the young girl and she retrieves it until she gets hot then she will leap into the canal and cool off. When they both have tired they will come lay at my feet and we will listen to the wind in the trees and the bird song. This is my meditation time, just being, with my dogs, and listening to the wind. God indeed.
That you for your inspiring Being Cylvia. Enthusiasm means “with God.” This quality of Life and charisma (ability to move people) I’ve noticed you express very naturally. There is no doubt in my mind these stellar qualities form basis of RNC attacks. You are a very serious threat and I’m sorry to hear of such abuse of someone so excellent.
For myself and thus issue of “worthiness” and overcoming aggressive shaming and active or historic abuse , what a brilliant question and topic. Firstly my faith the universe at its core is love, peace and deep compassion. These qualities form basis for dissolving such painful imprints. I ā¤ļø scholar Neil Douglas Klotz books aa related to this Living Universe and its powerful organic regenerative aspects. Today I’m meditating on qualities of Barr, Tawwab, Muntaqadim, Afuw and Rauf respectively the organic qualities of burnishing, returning to rhythm, sweeping out, blowing away the ashes and healing wings from “The Sufi Book of Life.” Coming after these heart purifying aspects of the Divine are passionate vision and overwhelming power and beauty.
To further address this important theme I would ššš to hear your talk. Is there a lunk to listen to it?
Perhaps it is the feeling nature of the feminine principle being attacked. Thecwestern world appears Idolize reason at the expense of the feeling feelings and connecting organicallly with Life . Your topic as brilliant addresses something all women face to a degree. Healing these cultural shaming imprints is part of it form me if I am to embrace my own inherent worthiness. . I read an article that presented the idea that women as the original caregivers are feared deeply by terrified infants. This unconscious memory was used to explain severity of attacks seen toward feminine power.
What a brilliant article. Thank you Cylvia. Appreciate your intelligent insight. Though I test very high in Martin Seligman’s identified virtue of “opennindedness”, yes confirming bias turned against myself (the inner critic?) is there. Maybe I can leverage this natural openmindedness in some way to overcome limiting beliefs. Maybe it’s possible to see other views beyond ego trash talk. Views that are loving, kind, and compassionate might be real possibilities.
I’m sure Pantanjali’a definition is far superior. But for now a cursory web search definition of another perspective on this aspect of mind thats fueled at times by confirming bias: https://www.yogapedia.com/definition/8617/karma-mala
Hi Cynthia. So glad you liked the article and thanks so much for the Karma Mala link. Very much aligned with what I was getting at. Here is to affirm you getting uber proficient at applying your natural open-mindedness and compassion to fully releasing your self-limiting beliefs! And so it is.
Wow. Well said. In the past, I was so confused by one person in particular who I had known since we were very young and I loved deeply and who I thought loved me yet, as time went on, she did/said hurtful (or, as you wrote, unloving) things to me. After a while, it felt abusive, and so, in anger, I abruptly cut off the relationship. I have learned from that painful experience, to lovingly detach and let go. While that was very difficult and heart-wrenching, it allowed room for healthy and loving friendships to enter my life which are life affirming and enriching. Thank you writing this post. It has helped me to further process and understand that important relationship.
Hi Michelle. So glad the post had some value for you. That certainly was an important relationship. Sometimes we have to shed the old to make room for new growth and new skin. Ideally, we can do so without anger and with forgiveness, but even when we miss that mark there is massive learning to be had in relationship ebbs and flows. All the very best to you.
Hi I am so grateful I found your webpage, I really found you by accident,
while I was looking on Yahoo for something else, Regardless I am here now and would just like to say cheers for a marvelous post and a all round exciting blog (I also
love the theme/design), I don’t have time to read through it all at the moment but
I have bookmarked it and also added your RSS feeds, so when I have time I will be back to read
much more, Please do keep up the great job.
Thanks so much Lieve. It does feel like love expressing. I am so excited for him to get a chance to start a new life with a firm base under him. He has never had that and yet, even in prison, he got clean, got his high school diploma and completed the electricians apprenticeship training. He’s got a very change at a great like if he just keeps making good decisions. Feeling blessed to be able to witness and support this next huge step for him.
Nice post, my friend. Hope you are feeling better soon! I am isolating myself too. So far I have cooked, done laundry, read books and today I am working on a new vision board š
xxoo
Thank you for this post. Indeed, and now realized, that the loss of these companions is no different emotionally than the loss of other family members. What is the lesson, I wonder, for us, for them, in terms of how short their lives are? And if we take in a number of animals, the number of times we experience not only the elation of a new family member but the leveling loss?
Thanks so much, Cylvia. Great words that resonate. It truly is about resilience and each person’s frequency and presence. These are unprecendented times but much needed as they are times for major change for humanity, etc. Appreciate your sharing. Gail
We had an adventurer friend that had told his wife, not to worry about him unless she hadn’t heard from him in three days! Of course this was a little extreme and we knew he was kidding… sort of. I got Jim a SPOT satellite communication device to take with him when he’s off trekking by himself so I don’t have to worry.
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Thank you so much for the great blog on Fences For Fido. We so all you do for us Cylvia.
Appreciate…..
Looking forward to, reading your work !
Happy Earth Day.
What courage to write this. You are healing you beautiful person
Thanks so much Emily. That is high praise from someone like you. Peace, C
This is such a poignant and moving piece. I was reminded that often forgiving another person is not so much about the person. It really is about healing the self.
I have been blogging about me being a transgender woman and mental health issues. I hope you keep writing.
Greetings Kristine. I am so glad you found some value in it. I wish you all the very best in your journey. How would I see your blog posts? Peace, Cylvia
Hi Cylvia
Here is a link to my WordPress Blog.
https://wordpress.com/posts/kristimac2015.wordpress.com
Kris
Very good info. Lucky me I ran across your website by accident (stumbleupon).
I’ve book marked it for later!
I’m so very glad you liked it! Thanks for letting me know. Peace, Cylvia
Does anyone read this crap??
Well, you did. I am truly sorry that you are so unhappy and insecure that you believe it will make you feel better if you try to hurt me. I really am. I hope you find peace.
Calvia
As a recovering alcoholic, I can identify with facing hardships and just isolating with copious amounts of alcohol. Now I still face what at times feel like impossible issues. I rely on friends who support me and realize alcohol will just make things worse. I refuse to read that paper because I just don’t trust their so called jounalism.
Love this post Cylvia. Keep the positive attitude going and right will prevail.
Thanks so much Martha.
This is the real tool to reflect your painful ordeals and afflictions. I wish God would help you generously to surmount all these pains and afflictions.
Cylvia, dear Heart, My OUTRAGE has returned, though it had never left. I just wrapped it in a dirty bathrobe and grabbed the remote. Apathy is easy for me. “What can I do? I’m nobody. I’m a cleaning lady. Who would care what I wrote? What on earth would someone like me have to say that would change anything?”
However, in 2010 I created a job for myself and I’m sticking to it. I became The Governor’s Cleaning Lady and Cook. The campaign headquarters was my training ground. I saw great government in action with the reelection of John. Then I wrote letters; “Letters to John from the Trenches” was a project I began a few months into his term. He set up a way for me to send them to him through the email of one of his staff. I’m sure he did not receive the letters. Someday I’ll tell you about a dream I had about all of this. About that time my personal “trench” became too deep for me to be effective. I could only take care of myself. Lately, I have enjoyed a bit of my role on your and John’s Facebook timeline; stirring the pot and taking out the garbage.
Cylvia, It is very important to my well being and sense of who I am in the world for me to stay in touch with you and The Governor. You were a great First Lady and still are to all those who know and love you. When I align my energy to you two lovely renegades I am happy; life has meaning for me; I feel my passion rising….
Yes, you and John are the “sacrificial lambs” for this evil that has penetrated our political system. It must be brought to light how the mainstream media has become the strongest power on the planet. I feel it controls everything we try to do as a society. I feel the majority of people have become “media heads”, spouting out information and opinions, word for word, from the reporters who spew it all into their little brains each and every day, from their tv’s, daily newspapers and radio.
“Turn it on, it’s there, it must be true.” “Look how many reporters are on this story! It must be true.” “I’m sure they investigated everything.” “Oh, yes. Reporters know how to investigate. They are highly trained people with great ethics. They are professionals! Everything they say must be true.” “Oh, for sure! The editors watch over them.” This is a conversation between some ordinary folks who really don’t have time in their busy lives to do some investigating on their own.
Well, that’s how it goes.
Find your personal guidance, dear Cylvia. Peace will follow.
I’ll continue to write to you. Your blog is quite inspiring. Soon.
Always your friend,
Doll
Greetings Doll, I was just thinking of you today. I hope you are doing very, very well and I very much appreciate your support.
Call on me anytime….I’ll be there for you. dw
This post is the cat’s meow….very few get what real healing is about. I don’t think I have read a more profound piece of how our perceptions of the events in our life shape our life…..changing our perceptions is such a simple thing to do…..but oh, so elusive in the human experience. The amazing truth is….when we heal our piece of the experience the rest seems to heal….all the events and people in these events… also experience a healing….this is the evolution of the spirit…..it seems to all move into a place of “mind over matter”. If you don’t mind, it don’t matter.
Peace be with you, my friend.
Doll
A bird doesn’t sing because it has an answer, a bird sings because it has a song.
Maya Angelo’s
Keep singin gurlllll!
You too Skipper! Thanks for the encouragement.
This is a very sweet story. Thank you. Congratulations on the court case. The girl has grit!
Thanks so much Marilyn for your kind note. Hope you are well.
Hang in there. This party is not over yet. Much more to follow.
Your style is very unique compared too other folks I’ve read stuff from.
Thank youu for podting when you have the opportunity, Guess I will just bookmark this blog.
Great post and advice!
I’ve only read your first blog and the 2nd. I’m already inspired!
I would love to have all this in a book.
Thanks so much. A book is on the way! I very much appreciate your kind words.
Thank You for your
Reinvention article.
I read the 10 Steps iam Grateful
You were brave enough to share.
You have the Reinvention of me easier.
With Much Gratitude,
Darnell
So glad it was useful Darnell! Here’s to successful self-reinventions!
I think the first step should be admitting your crime/ what you’ve done wrong and forgiving yourself while making a conscious decision to think before making a decision. Is this decision honest and fair? If this decision is to better my position, will it hurt others or be taking advantage of others?
Move on, recreate, but learn a lesson from your failure and do your best to make restitution.
Start writing that list and when you get to 500 you can stop.
My mantra:
Radiate Love
Be Grateful
Keep Moving.
Sending love and gratitude for all you do for the world and the beautiful people and animals in your life, dear Cylvia….Peace Be With You, My Friend.
Cylvia,
All i can say is………
You are so inspiring. THANK YOU
Thank you Dana!
Thank you for your honesty! I appreciated your article and learned quite a bit. Very re-affirming!
Actually Cylvia, you’re a day early. Autumnal equinox this year is Thursday, September 22 at 2:20 pm, Pacific time.
I do enjoy reading your thoughts. Hope they are helping.
Pat
Greetings Pat, thanks for dropping a note. I had to post this to my blog site one day early so I could schedule it to hit FB on the actual Equinox — today! Glad you are enjoying my writings. Peace, Cylvia
It’s because of who you are, Cylvia…..trust that you will always attract the very best into your life as you let go of what and who is not working in yor life…..and working through the emotions in your beautiful writing….carry on….dear heart….sending my love and peace…..Doll
This is the best of your writings, dear…..I would love to hear you speak these words out loud with all the passion of your soul……
The world is waiting for you to re-enter that arena! Love this blog, looking forward to the speech!
Stop it, NOW. You’re still wallowing in your guilt trying to make us think you are a victim when you are clearly NOT.
And don’t contact me with your stupid New Age garbage. You’re guilty and you have not right to act like you’ve redeemed yourself. You’re a fraud and a fake.
Greetings Theresa, Minnie, whoever you really are.
I find it funny that you are so interested in and intimidated by me that you continue to read my writings and send nasty comments. You clearly have some issues that are chewing at you. I donāt know about you but I have had the courage to enter some very challenging and perilous arenas and I have the courage and toughness to reenter after Iāve been pummeled. I genuinely hope you find some healing, peace and self-love so that you can evolve beyond attacking others in an effort to feel better about yourself.
All the best to you,
Cylvia
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This is so beautiful. Humility at its best!
This design is wicked! You most certainly know how to
keep a reader amused. Between your wit and your videos, I was almost moved to start my own blog (well, almost…HaHa!) Fantastic job.
I really enjoyed what you had to say, and more than that,
how you presented it. Too cool!
Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty.
Thanks for dropping this note Chuck.
Beautiful and powerful, Cylvia!
“…forgiveness is choosing to take your power back”. Yes!
Thanks Lieve. And here’s another amazing development. After I had posted this, at the evening event reception, the two people I mention in the post showed and approached me and I was able to say to them exactly what I’d envisioned, “I hope you’re well and that your wounds have healed.” They left. Extraordinary healing day.
Cylvia,
That was a great article, written well and with gratitude. I must confess that when we first connected on Facebook, I did not initially make the connection that you were the same one who went through that ordeal. While we have very different political positions, I appreciate your openness and willingness to listen to different points of view. The woman I came to know did not resemble the one on the front pages or in the headlines. I am glad I know you Cylvia Hayes and I am glad you have gotten your feet back under you. It is interesting what it takes for God to get our attention at times, isn’t it? Keep moving forward with your life Cylvia, you have a lot more to contribute to this planet of ours. Hugs, Dave
I love this post and the universality of our most human traits!
What a delightful post for Mother’s Day. Thank you Cylvia, enjoy the day.
Thank you! I have never been able to resurface from my trauma. It has been years. So unimaginable what people can do when they think they can get away with it.
Greetings Allyson, I truly hope you are healing and taking back your identity and life. I know how hard it can be. But it IS possible. Possible even to come out the other side happier, more effective and powerful than before.
It takes open-hearted vulnerability and self acceptance to know and share this way, Cylvia. The ability to do this is one of the most empowering spaces to be in this life. Clearly you are doing some awesome inner work!
I am so happy for you. You have such a beautiful spirit.
that was great the universe giving you the message multiple ways
Ah yes, I take my dogs out for their jaunt everyday. We go to the edge of a huge alfalfa field where a canal runs by us. The dogs are off leash and wander where they will, following where ever their noses take them. I throw the ball for the young girl and she retrieves it until she gets hot then she will leap into the canal and cool off. When they both have tired they will come lay at my feet and we will listen to the wind in the trees and the bird song. This is my meditation time, just being, with my dogs, and listening to the wind. God indeed.
Wow, what a holy experience. Thanks for sharing!
Dear Cylvia,
You totally nailed it. It seems that you know what you and others need to do.
Fill your life with new positives. Your success is who you are now.
We are all Gods
thank you for sharing this profound movie … so much depth to treasure.
That you for your inspiring Being Cylvia. Enthusiasm means “with God.” This quality of Life and charisma (ability to move people) I’ve noticed you express very naturally. There is no doubt in my mind these stellar qualities form basis of RNC attacks. You are a very serious threat and I’m sorry to hear of such abuse of someone so excellent.
For myself and thus issue of “worthiness” and overcoming aggressive shaming and active or historic abuse , what a brilliant question and topic. Firstly my faith the universe at its core is love, peace and deep compassion. These qualities form basis for dissolving such painful imprints. I ā¤ļø scholar Neil Douglas Klotz books aa related to this Living Universe and its powerful organic regenerative aspects. Today I’m meditating on qualities of Barr, Tawwab, Muntaqadim, Afuw and Rauf respectively the organic qualities of burnishing, returning to rhythm, sweeping out, blowing away the ashes and healing wings from “The Sufi Book of Life.” Coming after these heart purifying aspects of the Divine are passionate vision and overwhelming power and beauty.
To further address this important theme I would ššš to hear your talk. Is there a lunk to listen to it?
Beautiful comments Cynthia. Thanks for sharing your wisdom. My TED will be up within a month or so I’m told. Peace, Cylvia
Perhaps it is the feeling nature of the feminine principle being attacked. Thecwestern world appears Idolize reason at the expense of the feeling feelings and connecting organicallly with Life . Your topic as brilliant addresses something all women face to a degree. Healing these cultural shaming imprints is part of it form me if I am to embrace my own inherent worthiness. . I read an article that presented the idea that women as the original caregivers are feared deeply by terrified infants. This unconscious memory was used to explain severity of attacks seen toward feminine power.
What a brilliant article. Thank you Cylvia. Appreciate your intelligent insight. Though I test very high in Martin Seligman’s identified virtue of “opennindedness”, yes confirming bias turned against myself (the inner critic?) is there. Maybe I can leverage this natural openmindedness in some way to overcome limiting beliefs. Maybe it’s possible to see other views beyond ego trash talk. Views that are loving, kind, and compassionate might be real possibilities.
I’m sure Pantanjali’a definition is far superior. But for now a cursory web search definition of another perspective on this aspect of mind thats fueled at times by confirming bias: https://www.yogapedia.com/definition/8617/karma-mala
Hi Cynthia. So glad you liked the article and thanks so much for the Karma Mala link. Very much aligned with what I was getting at. Here is to affirm you getting uber proficient at applying your natural open-mindedness and compassion to fully releasing your self-limiting beliefs! And so it is.
Great advice Sylvia. Hope to see your smiling face soon.
Thanks so much Martha. I trust you are doing well. I KNOW you are doing good.
This is very good.
Thanks for sharing your idea.
In genric terms. What can be done to reinvent a group of people. Ethnic nationality
Wisdom is very beautiful…..and sexy….rock on, you two..dw
Wow. Well said. In the past, I was so confused by one person in particular who I had known since we were very young and I loved deeply and who I thought loved me yet, as time went on, she did/said hurtful (or, as you wrote, unloving) things to me. After a while, it felt abusive, and so, in anger, I abruptly cut off the relationship. I have learned from that painful experience, to lovingly detach and let go. While that was very difficult and heart-wrenching, it allowed room for healthy and loving friendships to enter my life which are life affirming and enriching. Thank you writing this post. It has helped me to further process and understand that important relationship.
Hi Michelle. So glad the post had some value for you. That certainly was an important relationship. Sometimes we have to shed the old to make room for new growth and new skin. Ideally, we can do so without anger and with forgiveness, but even when we miss that mark there is massive learning to be had in relationship ebbs and flows. All the very best to you.
Great insights on “unlearning” and moving forward with new opportunities to learn!
I love this: “each of us are far more, and far more beautiful and magnificent, than what shows up in these human forms” š
Hi I am so grateful I found your webpage, I really found you by accident,
while I was looking on Yahoo for something else, Regardless I am here now and would just like to say cheers for a marvelous post and a all round exciting blog (I also
love the theme/design), I don’t have time to read through it all at the moment but
I have bookmarked it and also added your RSS feeds, so when I have time I will be back to read
much more, Please do keep up the great job.
Beautiful, Friend. I love this.
Thank you Cylvia. As always your messages seem perfectly timed for me. Happy Solstice!
So glad you found some value in it. Happy Solstice to you!
Thank you. Such helpful questions to think and then write about. An empowering exercise.
You’re doing good work, Cylvia. Yay and Yikes indeed. This is what love looks like.
Thanks so much Lieve. It does feel like love expressing. I am so excited for him to get a chance to start a new life with a firm base under him. He has never had that and yet, even in prison, he got clean, got his high school diploma and completed the electricians apprenticeship training. He’s got a very change at a great like if he just keeps making good decisions. Feeling blessed to be able to witness and support this next huge step for him.
Blessings on your journey. I will keep you and your nephew is my thoughts and prayers. I like the yikes at the end. It is a yikes you are a brave soul
Nice post, my friend. Hope you are feeling better soon! I am isolating myself too. So far I have cooked, done laundry, read books and today I am working on a new vision board š
xxoo
Hi Carol, trust you are feeling much better!
Thank you for this post. Indeed, and now realized, that the loss of these companions is no different emotionally than the loss of other family members. What is the lesson, I wonder, for us, for them, in terms of how short their lives are? And if we take in a number of animals, the number of times we experience not only the elation of a new family member but the leveling loss?
Thanks for finally writing about >The Seductive Thief – Cylvia Hayes <Liked it!
Thanks so much, Cylvia. Great words that resonate. It truly is about resilience and each person’s frequency and presence. These are unprecendented times but much needed as they are times for major change for humanity, etc. Appreciate your sharing. Gail
Love this story – you are a good author!
We had an adventurer friend that had told his wife, not to worry about him unless she hadn’t heard from him in three days! Of course this was a little extreme and we knew he was kidding… sort of. I got Jim a SPOT satellite communication device to take with him when he’s off trekking by himself so I don’t have to worry.
What a great idea! Inspired by Spirit, I’msure!
Love, Cammie & Dave
Hi, I missed this class and wanted to know if it will be happening again? If so Iād like to sign up. Thank you